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Don’t waste your love.

Posted on Aug 27, 2013 by in All about Love | 1 comment


I met two young girls the other day.  Both teen moms.  It’s hard to put into words what their faces and demeanor displayed.  A heaviness behind their smile.  A sadness behind their eyes.  A loss of innocence, definitely.  A sense of resignation in each step.  They have both been robbed of childhood, robbed of giggling sleepovers and giddy crushes.  Robbed of high school, and maybe even college.  Everything from now on will be a struggle for survival.

What happened? They were deceived by Hollywood and this society.  Tricked by the enemy of their soul.  Lied to by every celebrity and reality TV star.

“Sex is no big deal! Everyone that loves each other, anyone that’s really in love, has sex.  Your boyfriend will leave you if you don’t sleep with him, and anyway, it’s the only way to show him how much you love him.”

It’s fun, it’s risky, it’s hot, and it’s what all the beautiful people do.

Until a month goes by, and no period.  Pregnancy test positive.  Then a trip to the doctor’s office.  Did they go with their mom? Did they even tell their parents right away?  How long did they hold their secret in their hearts? How long did they carry the burden alone?  How long did they wait to tell their boyfriend?

I don’t know any of the in-between.  All I saw was one hour of their story.  One of these girls really stuck out to me.  She sat alone, apart from the rest of the crowd, with her baby sleeping in a car seat at her side.  She had folded up his baby blanket and was using it as a pillow on the picnic table.  Her sadness seemed to wrap around her like a dark cloak.

What these two moms were looking for in the arms of their boyfriends was love.  Security.  Validation.  Value.  Self-worth.  Acceptance.

But what they got was major  responsibility.  Loneliness.  Isolation.  Confusion.  Rejection.

Girls, maybe you’ve already crossed that line.  Maybe you’re sleeping with your boyfriend right now…or maybe you’re just planning on it.

What you’re looking for and wishing for is not in any guy.  No one can fill that place in your heart, except for Jesus.

He is the only One who has actually taken our own sadness and sorrow upon Himself.  The only One who can completely fulfill us and fill us to overflowing with Love- perfect Love!  A Love that never betrays us, never seduces us, and never leaves us.  He will never take advantage of you!

This is what our Jesus did for us:

“He was looked down on and passed over,
a man who suffered, who knew pain firsthand.
One look at him and people turned away.
We looked down on him, thought he was scum.
But the fact is, it was our pains he carried—
our disfigurements, all the things wrong with us.
We thought he brought it on himself,
that God was punishing him for his own failures.
But it was our sins that did that to him,
that ripped and tore and crushed him—our sins!
He took the punishment, and that made us whole.
Through his bruises we get healed.”

Isaiah 53:3-5, The Message

Can you believe that He did that for us?  I can’t either.  We don’t really have anything to offer Him that in any way makes up for His sacrifice.  It was just His amazing love.  That’s what I mean- He’s so much more than we could ever ask for!  He goes above and beyond anything that we could even dream up or imagine.

And here are some verses about the fulfilling relationship that Jesus offers you.  When you throw yourself into His open arms, check out the benefits!

“You will show me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy, at Your right hand there are pleasures forevermore.”

Psalm 16:11, The Amplified Bible

“How priceless is your unfailing love! Both high and low among men find refuge in the shadow of your wings.”

Psalm 36:7

“For You make [me] to be blessed and a blessing forever; You make [me] exceedingly glad with the joy of Your presence.”

Psalm 21:6, The Amplified Bible; [personalized]

Blessed and fortunate and happy and spiritually prosperous (in that state in which the born-again child of God enjoys His favor and salvation) are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness (uprightness and right standing with God), for they shall be completely satisfied!

Blessed (happy, enviably fortunate, and spiritually prosperous—possessing the happiness produced by the experience of God’s favor and especially conditioned by the revelation of His grace, regardless of their outward conditions) are the pure in heart, for they shall see God!”

Matthew 5:6,8, The Amplified Bible

The benefits are endless!

His love is perfect, unlike the love and affection of a boyfriend.  No guy (are you hearing me?) can fill the vacancy in your heart.

That deep desire that you have to be loved

and told that you are beautiful,

to be caressed and held,

and to be his “one and only”…

no boyfriend or lover will ever fulfill that.

Only Jesus can fill that empty place.  Only Him.

Seriously.  I don’t think you believe me.  Are you thinking, “Oh, sure, she can say that now that she’s married”?  Well, yes, I can.  Because not even a fabulous husband can fulfill that desire one hundred percent of the time.  And now I know that.  It’s not my husband that fulfills and validates me- it’s Jesus.  Even though my husband is the absolute best, he’s still human!  If I cling too tightly to him, I get desperate for more and more…and he can only give me so much!  Jesus is the only one that can handle my gigantic need for love and attention.

Here’s my point- human love is not enough.  The divine, unfailing love of a Savior is essential.  You’ll die without it.  You’ll die a slow, agonizing death of the heart, and in the meantime, you’ll have spent everything that you hold dear in order to go chasing after “that which won’t satisfy”. (Isaiah 55:2)  You’ll have given away everything most precious to you.  For a love that’s lacking.

Back to the teen moms.  They gave away their most precious gift- their virginity- in exchange for love.  But it doesn’t work that way.  Instead of everlasting love and loyalty, they faced bullying, rejection, isolation, and loneliness.  Now, I believe that they’ll be okay…but I also believe that if they could, they would tell you to wait.  Sex before marriage just isn’t worth it, and it doesn’t fulfill you!  It robs you, and leaves you with a host of consequences.







I am asking you- begging you!- to say NO to sex outside of marriage, and to say YES to the perfect, pure Divine Love of Jesus.

He won’t ever leave you.  He’s perfect.

Are you hearing me?

Perfect.  Wonderful.  And so, so real!  His love is as real as the coffee cup in my hand.

I lack the words…so you’ll just have to experience it for yourself.  If you have any questions on how to experience the deep love of Jesus, connect with me!  We’ll walk through each step together.

Don’t wait another day!  His love is waiting for you!







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1 Comment

  1. I was 22 years old when I had my first son Mark. I was married, happy, and secure in a good marriage. But most importantly I had the spirit of God living in me!

    I saw a video about a girl that was 15 years old and made by her parents to give up her baby for adoption. This video showed the pain and grief that she was going through…she wrote her son a letter and read it out loud on camera…by the time she was done reading..I was bawling. She loved her son….and oouldn’t be with him. It was awful.

    I don’t think that girls mean to let things happen. Situations can be beyond their control….and emotions can really get in the way of reasonable thinking. If the girls can understand that the love they are seeking can never be fulfilled by someone else…then maybe they will look and seek God. Complete security and love are only found in him.

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