Love at first sight?
“Love at first sight”…a picture frame hangs in my kitchen that proudly states this adage. Next to these words, my husband’s mouth gapes open, looking at me cross-eyed, while I’m blissfully smiling into the camera, unaware of his antics. This moment was captured by a friendly couple that offered to take our picture when we were hiking in Wisconsin Dells a few months before we were married. It’s the perfect snapshot for my picture frame. I love it so much because, well…I just couldn’t put a “serious” picture in that picture frame. Love at first sight? It usually doesn’t happen that way. If it does…well, I have plenty of “crush” stories I could share with you (and I’m sure that you have your fair share, as well. We could sit down for coffee and entertain each other for hours!). I remember being eleven years old at a Rocky Mountain District youth camp (one of the benefits of being the music minister’s daughter). The youth camp speaker’s son was fourteen or fifteen, if I remember right.
I didn’t sleep very much that week.
(Are you smiling yet? You have one of these camp stories, too! I know!)
I was completely in love, in “like”, or whatever you are at age eleven. He had dark hair and he was a complete dare devil. My main memory of that week was watching him run around the campground with a rope tied around his head. I was smitten.
Back then, we got camp t-shirts during our first day of recreation, and the color t-shirt that they gave you was the color of the team that you were assigned to for the week. I don’t remember what color t-shirt I was given…but I remember that his was blue. Baby blue. Mine wasn’t. Needless to say, I wanted baby blue. I begged and pleaded, walked into every cabin looking for someone to switch with me, but with no luck. I was stuck on my team, and he on his. I somehow got my hands on an extra blue t-shirt that one of the camp leaders generously gave me…but I later realized that it was the wrong blue! All hope was lost. I don’t recall many other details of the week. I don’t know how long it took me to get over whats-his-name, or how long I pined after my dark-haired, baby blue t-shirt crush afterwards. I lived to tell about it, though!
That was love at first sight for me. An illusion. A crush. An obsession. Infatuation. Usually one-sided, or as they say, “unrequited love”.
What is it about “unrequited love” that attracts us girls like flies to a streetlamp? The things we suffer, girls…and all because of our own silliness! Thankfully, that week at youth camp was harmless, and I was young. Nothing came of it. But I was blind to all reason, and had I gotten the chance, I would have made a fool of my little self trying to win him. Never mind that I was only eleven- I was almost twelve! In my mind, we were a perfect match.
Silliness, ladies…infatuation…crushes…daydreams…they can take us down the wrong path, and in a hurry!
Listen to this passage out of I Timothy. This is Apostle Paul, warning Timothy of the kind of people that will come in the last days. Speaking of such people, Paul says this:
This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,
Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
2 Timothy 3:1, 2, 5-7, KJV
In case that version isn’t clear enough, look at how the Amplified Bible puts it:
For among them are those who worm their way into homes and captivate silly and weak-natured and spiritually dwarfed women, loaded down with [the burden of their] sins [and easily] swayed and led away by various evil desires and seductive impulses.
[These weak women will listen to anybody who will teach them]; they are forever inquiring and getting information, but are never able to arrive at a recognition and knowledge of the Truth.
2 Timothy 3:6-7, AMP
Ouch. I know that I have been silly in the past. (‘Fess up, ladies! I know I’m not the only one!)
We women have to be so careful- especially if we claim to love Jesus! This passage warns us against men sent by the enemy of our souls to captivate, entice, and ultimately destroy women who aren’t wise. Women who aren’t seeking after God with their whole heart. Women who love Jesus, but are always looking for their next relationship. Ladies, you were purchased- rescued!- by your Maker! Your sin debt was paid in full with His spotless blood! Your life, your heart, and your body are not your own.
And even though you were dead in your transgressions [...] he nevertheless made you alive with him, having forgiven all your transgressions. He has destroyed what was against us, a certificate of indebtedness expressed in decrees opposed to us. He has taken it away by nailing it to the cross. Disarming the rulers and authorities, he has made a public disgrace of them, triumphing over them by the cross.
Colossians 2:13-15, NET
Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God with your body.
I Corinthians 6:19-20, NET
Ladies, we cannot be easily swayed by “evil desires and seductive impulses”! Watch how you walk. Watch how you dress, and watch how you express yourself. Before you sway your hips to get his attention, remember these passages. Are you a silly woman? Are you easily swayed “in the moment”? Remind yourself that you were bought with a price and you are not your own. Your body is not yours to give away freely.
Okay. One more word of caution to you precious ladies. Listen to what King Solomon, the wisest man to ever live, says about love and seduction:
There be three things which are too wonderful for me, yea, four which I know not: the way of an eagle in the air; the way of a serpent upon a rock; the way of a ship in the midst of the sea; and the way of a man with a maid.
Proverbs 30:19-20, KJV
I found this footnote in the Living Bible translation:
The growth of love between a man and a girl, literally, “The way of a man with a maid.” Some linguists believe the meaning is, “Why a girl will let herself be seduced.”
It’s a mystery, even to King Solomon. Keep this close to your heart. As this same wise man admonishes us, “Guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it flow the issues of life.” (Proverbs 4:23) Guard your heart! Be “wise as serpents, and harmless as doves” (Matthew 10:16).
Don’t chase “love at first sight”. Chase Jesus!
Stay tuned for Part 2! I can’t wait to write about TRUE love at first sight. You’re going to love it!! (No pun intended.)
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